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How To Adopt A Baby In One Year

If you are trying to adopt a baby through private domestic adoption, you are likely wondering how long it takes and how some families match their adoptions faster than others. More than anything, you likely want a proven roadmap to follow to help you adopt a baby in one year or even less. If that is you, my friend, then stick around because, in this blog, I will give you the step-by-step process to follow to help you adopt a baby in one year.

There are multiple methods of matching.

Families who adopt within a year or less are using multiple methods of matching. That means they're working with an agency, or sometimes a consultant, and they're also self-matching. The real key here is that they're putting themselves in the driver's seat of making sure that their adoption profile is being seen by as many people as possible. Now, I'm not saying that you have to use an agency or a consultant in order to match your adoption in less than a year; just saying it does help. I have plenty of one on one clients that are self-matching their adoption in less than a year. 

Have a clear profile that makes an emotional connection.

The next step is to make sure that you have a clear adoption profile that makes an emotional connection. This is something that I do with my one-on-one clients. We use the adoption profile, clarity builder system, and the emotional connection framework. Those are two steps in my five-step proprietary process that I work with people one on one in creating their adoption profiles. One of the things that I've learned by spending over 1000 hours talking with expectant families now is that when you have too much detail in your profile, it actually becomes overwhelming. You become a sea of nothingness to them because they don't really know what you stand for or who you are, which results in them having to do a lot of extra work to get to know you. And quite honestly, when there are so many hopeful adoptive families out there that are just a swipe away, a click away, whatever analogy you want to use, then it's much easier just to move on. That's exactly what they do. When I talk with some expectant families, they tell me they have a little remorse behind that they say that they really liked them, and their pictures looked great, but that they just couldn't get a sense of what their life was like, which made them feel unconnected, so they moved on. So it's important that you really stay focused on the important details about your family and what the real story of your family is. That's exactly what I help you do through the adoption profile clarity builder system. We get super crystal clear on what the story is of your family, and you have been looking at it and helping you edit that and really refine that for you. 

The other important piece of this to consider is if your story or your profile is making an emotional connection. You want to make an emotional connection because you share the vision of this child's life. Your job as a hopeful adoptive family is to have a clearer picture of what life is like in your family and communicate it in a way that she will easily be able to determine whether or not that's the picture that she has of this child's life and her mind as well. When you do that, you are creating an emotional connection. So between the adoption profile, clarity builder system, and the emotional connection framework, I teach you how to bring those two things together so that you have an accurate, clear picture of who your family is in a way that she can easily take on more than information and say, yes, they are the right fit, or no, they're not the right fit. You can use these tools, no matter if you are being forced into working with another adoption profile company out there or using a particular profile template from your agency. There are ways that we can make your story shine through in that. So if you're being asked to create a profile or answer a list of questions with your agency, I can help coach you through that; that is something I do quite regularly.

Consistently share your adoption profile and really put yourself in the driver's seat of your adoption.

The third thing that my clients that are matching in less than one year are doing is they are putting themselves in the driver's seat of their adoption. They are consistently sharing their profile. They may be sharing their profile in real life with people to tell them that they are hoping to adopt, or they may be sharing their profile in digital ways. Either way, they have a clear roadmap that they follow to really know exactly what to do. I call it the adoption matching roadmap, where we get clear on the actual content plan of what you plan to share in your adoption and when you need to share it. I write my one-on-one clients a marketing plan; I tell them to post this specific type of material on their Facebook and Instagram and drive those posts back to their website that I create for them, that is, their long-form content. I also tell them what to post in groups and tell them what groups to go post. I create their mini profile for them in those groups so that they can post them there. 

I'm enabling them to be in the driver's seat of their adoption journey so that they know that by taking small, consistent steps every single day to move their adoption in front of more and more people that are considering placing their child for adoption, they're ultimately going to be successful in that. It's proven itself time and time again. For example, Emily brought home her twins just a couple of months ago, and Kathy matched through a consultant with a single mama just a few months ago. We also had Amy and Ross, that brought home their baby boy by working with an agency. So you can see all of these people that are working with agencies and consultants, but they're also self-matching and putting themselves in the driver's seat; they're matching very quickly.

Using social media ads.

The fourth and final step of the process that my one-on-one clients are using to match in less than a year is social media ads. Now, for anybody out there whose heart just skipped a beat and said for one of two reasons. That said, either social media ads are not allowed in my state, or I don't know how to do social media ads. Don't worry, friend; there are still plenty of people that are matching without social media ads as well if that's outside of your comfort zone. If you're also out there wondering what in the world is a social media ad, it is an ad on Facebook and Instagram, where you're paying Facebook and Instagram to share a particular piece of content or a particular ad with people that are considering to place their child for adoption. It helps you to be seen far more often, and you can match faster. I do have a number of clients that are matching through ads right now, and that has actually resulted in finalized adoptions. 

When expected families that are considering self-matching their adoption come across your profile is typically in one of two ways when it comes to the digital world. In the digital world, they're either going to see your profile listed in one of those Facebook groups that people used to match, or second, they've come across you in an ad. Either way, they're going to click back to the name of the profile. They're going to look through that profile to get a general sense of who you are. They tell me when they're looking through that profile that they're actually just looking at the pictures and seeing if they make a connection with you. If they do, then they want to click back to a website to learn more about you. You see, your adoption profile website really is becoming more of your adoption profile book these days. This is because everybody has their phone in their hand or in their pocket or nearby. An expectant mama tells me that she would much rather be able to discreetly look at your profile on her phone than to have this big book hauling around, especially maybe if she has started sharing with her friends, family, or even the baby's birth father at this stage that she's considering placing the child for adoption. So, having this big book to lug around can be incredibly inconvenient. So she finds you on social media through either a Facebook group or through an ad, and she clicks on your profile, and she looks more at your adoption-specific profile. Then she clicks out to the website to get to know you a little bit more. If she likes what she's seen, and she feels that connection and feels drawn to you, then she's going to reach out to you. It is important that you understand that social media ads do play a role and that you consider them. 

There you go, friend, the 4 step process that my clients are following and matching their adoptions in less than one year. I trust that this blog has been incredibly valuable and if it has, please make sure to leave a comment below and join my Facebook group. 


Hi, I Am Amanda

I am an adoption profile expert on a mission to help you create and share your family's story more affordably!