The adoption profile you need

The Adoption Profile You Need

If you make one small tweak to your adoption profile, it will help you match faster. 

And that tweak does not require you to sing or dance on any of those silly social media platforms. 

I've helped over 1,000 people bring home their babies through adoption, just like Kinsey and Matt, who brought home their daughter in just one month. I brought home my own two children very quickly as well. 

Today, I'm going to show you how to do it too. There are different types of adoption profiles, and this tweak will apply to all of them. 

First, let's talk about whether you're working with an adoption agency, attorney, or consultant. If you're working with any of those to match your adoption, you're typically going to use an adoption profile book and an adoption website. I would highly recommend you have an adoption profile video, too. My clients who use an adoption profile video match two times faster than those who don't! 

Now the other way you may be matching your adoption is by self-matching or independently matching your adoption. That means you're finding an expectant parent to match with. When you're doing that on your own, you're going to be using things like social media to share with friends and family that you're hoping to adopt. Then hopefully they will share it with someone who's considering placing a child for adoption. You're also going to be using a website and a video. Because, again, that is so very important. I've also had a significant number of clients match through flyers and business cards that you leave in your local community when in places that you typically frequent. 

No matter what type of adoption profile you are using, you must do this one thing, or have this one small tweak in your adoption profile. Make an emotional connection. The lack of an emotional connection is the single biggest thing that will get you pushed to the side by expectant parents. If they don't feel drawn and pulled into your story and want to get to know more about you, then you're simply going to be lost in the crowd of other hopeful adoptive families. And that my friend will result in you waiting longer to match and bring home your baby. 

So you're probably thinking, “How do I make an emotional connection?” I have created a proprietary framework called the emotional connection builder framework that I use with my clients and that I use in my adoption profiles. There are four steps to making an emotional connection through your adoption profile. And I'm going to give you the 30,000-foot view of those steps today. If you want to dive deeper into this and have the ability to ask me questions live you can join my upcoming free training to learn these secrets more in depth. Head on over to my adoptioncoach.com/training and you can grab your seat today.

Steps to Make an Emotional Connection

Step One:

The very first step to making an emotional connection through your adoption profile is not being perfect. Many of us will agonize for hours over exactly what to say or not to say in our adoption profile. Sometimes we tend to err on the side of trying to be perfect. We all want to be open and honest in our adoption profiles. Expectant parents do not expect perfection. That perfection can be a real turnoff to them in adoption profiles. On the other hand, we want to be mindful of not giving her our baggage from any infertility issues or any past adoption trauma that we have been through. 

Step Two:

Next, you want to make it easy for her to see and understand what life is like in your family through the vivid use of detail. Now what is so amazing about each of us human beings is that we all learn differently. Some of us learn best by listening. Some of us learn best by seeing Some of us need to be able to close our eyes and imagine what someone is talking about, seeing, and doing. So she needs to see you doing things in the photos, she needs to hear your voice on the video, and she needs to read the words that you have written that perfectly pair with the story that you are trying to tell about your family. 

This is why having an adoption profile video is so very important to your adoption journey. 90% of birth families that I have personally spoken with have said that they picked their child's adoptive family because of their adoption profile video. They said that it was so easy to see how this child would live every day, and how they would celebrate the big moments and the small moments, through the videos that they viewed. They said that helped those hopeful adoptive families be more memorable when considering all of the families that were hoping to adopt their child.

Step Three:

So that brings me to the next step in the process, which is showing her what life is like in your family. Now, we want to do this in a mindful way because we don't want to overwhelm her with too much information. So we organize your life into a series of stories and use that to help make that emotional connection with expectant parents. Again, the objective is for her to see what life is like for you every day, from the small moments of family dinners to the big moments of birthday celebrations and Christmas. She wants to understand what your life is like and video is a great way to do that. But pairing it in a very specific way from a story perspective helped her retain that information. Our objective here is to help her feel supported. We want to demonstrate that we are supporting her through the language, and through the stories that we're telling so that she feels comfortable in making the decision that she is making. We can't come at this assuming that she is sad about this adoption placement or that she is happy about this adoption placement. Therefore, it is our job as hopeful adoptive families to share what life is like in an easy way for her to understand. 

The real key to making an emotional connection with expectant parents is making it easier for her to get to know you. If you'd like to learn more about how she can get to know you and the process that my clients follow that helps them bring home their baby faster, you're going to want to check out this video.